Was he drunk?

Too many times we are quick to judge a matter or a man, and are entirely impatient to wait for the facts before we smite a man with our opinion, and by so doing, we castrate any possibility of seeing value in another human being.

Like single issue voters, we wrongly attribute ‘nothingness’ to a person when we prematurely judge, having no care for the facts or the rest of the story. The good book reminds us to ‘be careful how ye judge,’ yet we are slow as turtles to understand this truth.

There was a man who had a wife and 6 children, and they were the epitome of an American family. Twelve hour days at the mill, butchering on weekends, and staying out of trouble and debt for some odd seventy years.

Peoples memory of this man was myopic, because all his worth was lost (in the minds of most) by the odor of the drink.

Friends ‘children were lifted up’ in his arms, and he loved them dearly as his own, (he had six mind you) and he enjoyed singing, singing, and singing; and he loved watching westerns.

When he had any spare time,  he was working around the modest house, ‘lifting up children’ and smiling to them, and yes on occasion smelling a wee  bit of the brew. People thought he was always drunk, and news traveled far and wide. Only a few knew otherwise, and it took over fifty years for anybody to set the matter straight.

Long ago, one Saturday morning, this man was backing his jalopy out of the garage,  for to run some errands. The little girls were playing in the small yard, but the smallest managed to crawl into the driveway looking for a ball or other toy.

Her sisters lost sight of her for a few seconds, and you guessed it, the gentleman backed out of the garage and heard a thump. Screaming and chaos ensued, and a day later, little Mary came to life’s end. An accident. A pure accident, yet the father could neither forgive himself, and you could understand, he could not forget. There was no word suitable for his despair.

Years passed and his grief and pain would not subside. He took to the brew because he could not face the memory of what he thought was no accident. He diminished his offspring to six children. He knew there were seven! He would sing in another language and people thought he was drunk, but he was crying out to God asking for help to live for he could not face himself. He ‘lifted up his children’ and the neighbor’s children asking God to keep, bless, and protect them.  Oh how he loved children. He gave them tears as gifts.

He wanted to have erased from his own mind that solitary Saturday morning when the air was cool, and life was oh so good.  As if his own punishment wasn’t enough, there was an added tragedy, for people judged this man for 50 years knowing not that he had at one time seven children.

They knew nothing of Mary, and what happened to her and to her father.

He was thought to be a useless drunk and a babbler. Yet his so-called babbling was his European tongue, and the careless of thought accused him falsely. His wife and he were immigrants, and they learned English, but cherished the opportunity to speak the language wherein they were born. Above that, singing in that tongue was nectar to his heart.

Similar to the apostles when speaking forth the wonders of God, their ‘drunkenness’ was not that at all, and the shallow of thought should hide in the shadows of their own embarrassment.

This man used an occasional brew as a friend because he did not know how to face forgiveness. He thought he could not be forgiven, he thought of himself as an unfit father and human being, and he could not live with the memory that he was responsible for ending the life of his wife’s seventh child. He was crushed.

Many, many years later, and after learning the history of this man, so-called friends had changed opinions; some all of a sudden heard a sweet song, and others did not mind the smell of that brew after all. All saw something strikingly sweet when they remembered ‘the lifting of the children,‘ and many despised themselves for their judgment of a very good man.

Do we not do this on occasion? Perhaps we write off a person or two when they say a word that is offensive, or what WE think is offensive, and do not give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe we just don’t have all the facts.

Perchance we isolate ourselves from a person who ‘smells funny,’ or sings a tune that is unfamiliar to us. The old fellow lived his entire life punishing himself, yet tolerated the added punishment of others, for he always ministered kindness in return.  His memory of little Mary gave him no rest.  Yes, his song was foreign, but not to him.

Yes he occasionally smelled of the brew. Was he drunk? Of course not, but the unfounded opinions of others was a bit tipsy. His returning grace for condemnation was remarkable, and his ability to live knowing of the false insults of others was heavenly.


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35 Responses to Was he drunk?

  1. There is always a story behind the face and the action. Always. We are seduced by the obvious and avoid the hidden. Whether it be ‘a bit of the brew’ or pure madness, our focus is predictably skewed. It is when we choose to pause and wonder about a soul that truth has a chance to break the surface. Maybe it is there where true intimacy lies.

    Another beautiful rendering. Thank you.

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    • ColorStorm says:

      Very astute observation: ‘Seduced by the obvious, and avoid the hidden.’ Thank you for your thoughtful attention.

      Yes, something like this reminds me of the folks who say ‘hang him,’ without wanting to hear the other side of a case. ‘Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak,’ is a pretty good policy.

      I can imagine you are pretty darn good in your field; as was noted earlier, you seem to get right to the heart of a matter. Tkx again for adding value to this post.


      • archaeopteryx1 says:

        And yet you condemn me and prevent my comments from posting. Does the word, “hypocrite” mean nothing to you? It should.


        • ColorStorm says:

          Did you read the post arch? Did you see the part about having all the FACTS? Thanks to you and your brethren, who posted 50 plus comments at warp speed, most having NOTHING to do with the content, it was impossible to engage and you know it.

          With no purpose other than to malign scripture, mock good people, or plant seeds of doubt and discord, you cant see the unseemliness?

          As to this, condemnation? Hardly, please do not sing the victim song here. Knowing what I (and others) know of you and your remarks, I think I have been overly gratuitous, and surely you would agree.


  2. Leanne says:

    Very powerful message. I wish we were not so quick to judge; that our automatic reflex would be to seek out the story rather than draw conclusions from outward clues. It is impossible to know a person’s heart without inviting him–in love–to share it.

    Why it took 50 years for the truth to reveal itself is frustrating, but God’s timing is rarely in sync with our own expectations. 🙂

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    • ColorStorm says:

      Hi Leanne-
      Tkx much for your contribution to this unusual tale. Your mentioning of the ’50 years,’ and how God’s timing is rarely ours definitely needs repeating; a nice ‘long time to pause and wonder’ as Cindy from rr suggests below.

      I’m afraid this is a common occurrence, (the poor judgment of others); and the old fellow’s silence merely increases the voice of a false disdain by all around him.

      Strange too how his own character was revealed, and so much like the Lord Jesus, who withstood false accusations, and was thought to be a ‘nobody…’


  3. Wally Fry says:


    Wow. You know…we are awful about that. Especially in God’s own house. Maybe we think if we are believers we have some special qualification to judge. I wonder how many lives that would have been used for His glory get wasted because of the way we, as Christians, act towards them?

    Somebody could have just talked to the man in your story; just a little personal contact and they would have known, right? But, much easier to stand around pointing.

    Btw…is it Jack?

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    • tellthetruth1 says:

      Wally, that happened to me! But I’m not ‘wasted’; the Lord gave me WordPress, and I can have church every single day! Don’t you be concerned, Brother. None of His are ever wasted. Hope that gives you comfort 🙂

      Mind you, we know what it says in James about strangers coming in…


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      • Wally Fry says:

        Yes James did have some thoughts didn’t he?

        If I understood correctly. .I pray you find a church home to worship in.

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        • tellthetruth1 says:

          That’s why I’m here, Wally. I can’t find anywhere to go. After what happened at the place I was going to, I sent out at least three emails to other churches, telling them I was looking for somewhere to go. None of them were ever answered. It’s bad, around here.

          Seems that if you’re incapacitated in walking, for instance, it causes trouble! But hey, I’ve got my WordPress 🙂

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        • Wally Fry says:

          Amen. .glad you do

          Liked by 1 person

    • archaeopteryx1 says:

      Maybe we think if we are believers we have some special qualification to judge.” – I’ve heard of people like that, Wally – one of them owns this blog —

      Liked by 1 person

      • Wally Fry says:

        You are in rare form this morning Arch…odd you saying something about judging..you have been pretty harsh in your comments yourself this morning. ColorStorm does not judge…but the Word of God does.

        Don;t get confused into thinking I feel differently about it…God’s Word judges us all…but we all react to it differently.

        Have a good day Arch


        • archaeopteryx1 says:

          ColorStorm does not judge…but the Word of God does.” – When you moderate, you judge, that’s what moderating is all about. Of the 4200 of them, which god would that be?

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        • Wally Fry says:

          Arch…you wonder why you get moderated? Seriously…what does that question really have to do with the post as originally written? This is not even my blog…not going to have a stupid debate with you on another blog. I am thinking this may be proof that all you are looking for is argument and disruption.

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    • ColorStorm says:

      Hey W:

      What is the cost of lost years being subjected to the unfair opinions of others,…..and all the while, innocent of all charges. Reminds me of Another who took upon Himself No Reputation…………….

      Yea, Mom wanted to name me ColorStorm, but Pop said nope. 😉

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  4. Well said, colorstorm. Heart breaking and sad. That tendency to rush to judgment, especially over small things, petty things, is an unpleasant part of the human condition. We don’t have to be that way however, there is a perfect example of love that knows how to see beyond the surface judgements and into our hearts. That is what we are called to emulate and when we fail to do it, we deprive our own selves of the treasures to be found there. People are not their surface flaws, everyone has a story to tell.

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  5. archaeopteryx1 says:

    Hey, IB – have you read Kuba’s KNOWLEDGE GUILD this morning?


    • ColorStorm says:

      Hey arch-

      Did you happen to read the POST about a man who ran over his daughter named Mary? Is there one bone of humanity in your being? You are commenting on THIS post right?

      Oh, sorry, I forgot, I’ve read the atheistic playbook, indeed in the words of your brethren: simply disrupt, malign, cast aspersion, sow chaos, prolong the conversation; it doesn’t matter as to content, just say ANYTHING to disrupt and steal the conversation from anything that appears worthy.

      You represent the A-team quite well. Am I judging? Ah no, just an observation verified with proof after proof.

      Again, maybe you would like to address the mans butchering skills if humanity offends you.

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    • ColorStorm says:

      Yea she read it; as a matter of fact………………………….ah never-mind, but your uncaring for my post at least inspired a finer one.

      I suggest you keep in mind when you read it: ‘Light exposes darkness.’



  6. archaeopteryx1 says:

    Back on Moderation – you’re missing all of my treasures, CS! So sad – you’ll just have to continue being you, and I can’t think of a worse punishment —


  7. Terri says:

    This is so sad, and what is even sadder is that it happens all the time, such a powerful and eye opening message. We just never know what may be going on in someone’s life.

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